The Art of SELF . . . .

I am honored to be granted an audience with you at this moment in time! Your life is an amazing MATRIX of experiences, perceptions, interpretations and illusions!! In creating a BLOG-site dedicated to exploring THE ART OF SELF, I set the clear intention of creating an arena in which all are invited to come and interact . . . as we interact, we learn . . . as we learn we, in essence, remember . . . as we remember, we awaken to a clearer knowing of SELF!

I will start this conversation by saying YOU are PERFECT just the way you are . . . YOU are NOT broken; YOU do NOT need fixing . . . and I expand this comment on to myself!!! Together we can step forward in a SELF-embrace of acknowledgement that we are AMAZING, FABULOUS, BRILLIANT BEYOND MEASURE and ROCK STARS of our own design!

Let's start a new fad, trend, wave and movement by stepping forward and actively engage in the ART OF SELF. What does this mean, you ask? It simply means that we live our life from a place of "I" . . . Ayn Rand calls it "Selfism". No, it is NOT selfish!!!! As we first accept within ourselves that we are truly AWE-INSPIRING beings of purpose; only then can we truly see this in others!!!

Instead of living from a mind-set of "some-day" I'll be AMAZING, LOVABLE, UNDERSTOOD and WORTHY . . . change that sentence TODAY to: I AM AMAZING, LOVABLE, UNDERSTOOD and WORTHY, because I believe this about myself!! . . . and now believe it!! Make this YOUR truth!! Your truth MUST come from you, that's why it's called YOUR truth! :) I have a glorious friend who shared with me what her partner said about YOUR TRUTH: He said, "If you believe something is true; it's true! Even if others think you're lying or tell you it's not true, it's still true cuz it's true for you!"

We have all had moments in our existence when something negative and hurtful was said/done to us or about us. At times these negative and hurtful things/events may even have been repeated. More often than not we do not have much internal dialogue cautioning us that this external hurt is not for us . . . all too often we seem obliged to accept and embrace this negative and hurtful experience and just learn to 'live with it'! We very capably integrate this painful experience into the perception we now hold of ourselves.

My question is this: "Why is it so much easier to believe the bad stuff about ourselves . . . and even more so, why is it so hard to release the painful perceptions we hold of ourselves?" The answer lies in the fact that self-help organizations are bulging at the seams with attendance to their workshops, seminars and conferences! We are all in need of support! I know for myself, I have not yet tired of hearing that I am NOT broken and that I do NOT need fixing. I LOVE hearing that all I need is to REMEMBER my own greatness . . . the challenge arises when you feel that you are REMEMBERING your own greatness alone . . . it's human nature to want companionship. Thus, many of us step forward into this authentic REMEMBRANCE of SELF and feel afraid and alone.

Please do not be disheartened, my friend! . . . as we stand strong for our SELF, courage will stand with us! Everything we wish to be someday, we already are or we would be unaware of that wish! Everything we're waiting for to come our way (education, acknowledgement from others, opportunities) we already posses the power to create on our own!! Please do not misunderstand what I am saying . . . I am not saying that you are to be an island, alienating yourself from everyone around you . . . never! I am saying that you are already capable of being fully SELF-contained! YOU have the power to make yourself happy, sad, mad, glad . . . you hold the power to accept, acknowledge and encourage yourself . . . YOU are capable of creating ALL that you wish, just as YOU are capable of creating nothing.

As we fully step into the ART of SELF . . . we must also realize that no one VICTIMIZES us except ourselves . . . as we become accountable for our own SELF we realize we can no longer blame others for our misfortunes, pain or regrets! When we step into VICTIM roles we simply choose to give our power away; no matter how confusing and impossible it may seem in the midst of chaotic domination we ALWAYS have the right to take our power back!!

It's hard, you say? Damn right it's hard . . . . please remember that we must always bear the consequences of our actions!!! If we give our power away for someone else to abuse us with for an hour, it will be easier to reclaim that power than when we have given it away for decades . . . trust me I know this!!

In conclusion to today's BLOG, may I simply say that if you are looking for someone to stand beside you as you REMEMBER, ACKNOWLEDGE and EMBRACE your true and glorious SELF . . . you have found what you are looking for!! Together we can engage in dialogue as we expand our remembrance of SELF!!

The UNIVERSE awaits our beckoning!

Love and Gratitude
Debbi